These are just a few of the things I have caught myself saying lately. TO MYSELF.
I started thinking about how these words would sound if I said them to a friend. And I realized I would NEVER say these things to a friend. That would be so mean!
“You didn’t spend enough time with your kids today. You’re such a bad mom.”
Ugh, can you imagine saying that to a friend?
“I can’t believe you didn’t work out yesterday. You are so lazy.”
Um, what kind of friend would say that?
“What were you even talking about at that party? You are so stupid.”
Nope, we’re not friends anymore.
So what makes it ok to say these things to myself, and not to a friend?
It’s not ok.
So I’ve started catching myself. As the negative self-talk starts to surface, I ask if I would say it to a friend. If the answer is no, then I am not allowed to say it to myself. I’m learning to be more gentle inside my own head. I’m learning to give myself the grace that I give others.
I’m not there yet, but I’m getting there.
How do you talk to yourself?