Are we listening?

Life August 14, 2014

This week I haven’t said much on social media because I’ve been too busy reading stories. Too busy listening. Trying to understand. Putting myself in other people’s shoes.

Because as much as I’ve experienced the darkness of depression in my own journey, I have never seriously contemplated suicide. I don’t know what that’s like. So I read and I listen to people who’ve been there.

Because as much as I want to understand what’s going on in Iraq, I don’t understand what it’s like to live in that kind of fear. So I listen. I read. I learn.

Because as much as I am horrified by what is happening in Ferguson, I don’t know what it’s like to be a black person in America. So I seek out. I read blog posts. I listen.

So I have a favor to ask of all of us (me included).

Before we post a status update. Before we tweet an opinion. Before we make an “I can’t believe people are focusing on THIS while THAT is happening” statement, can we all just slow down a little bit? Can we quiet our internal defenses and listen to each other?

Not just stop-talking-long-enough-to-think-about-what-we-will-say-when-the-other-person-is-done-talking but actually quiet our own prejudice and take in another person’s story?

Because understanding doesn’t come from shouting at each other. I have never convinced anyone of my position by bashing them over the head with my words.

As Lisa Gungor put it today, “Both sides declaring ‘right-ness,’ both sides stating a case, but are we really listening to each other?”

The world seems extra crazy lately. Maybe it’s time we shut up and listen.

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  • Rebecca Reeves Jones August 15, 2014 at 7:33 am

    AMEN lady! I just tweeted this yesterday –

  • Jackie August 15, 2014 at 1:46 pm

    I agree. We all need to listen more and show each other more compassion. We are quick to judge and brush people off… People who might really need our help and understanding. We need to slow down, connect more, & learn to respectively disagree with one-another.

  • Lynda August 19, 2014 at 7:11 am

    This is such a great post. We all need to empathize more as you stated so well. And really listen. Thank you for reminding me.

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